The Gottman Institute researched thousands of couples and discovered the four predictors of relationship failure and they call them the four Horsemen. There’s defensiveness, criticism, stonewalling and contempt. Let’s talk about what they look like versus what they’re healthy twin looks like. #relationships #marriageadvice #gottman #fourhorsemen #defensiveness #criticism #contempt #stonewalling #failure #nervoussystemregulation | Hope with Holly
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The Gottman Institute researched thousands of couples and discovered the four predictors of relationship failure and they call them the four Horsemen. There’s defensiveness, criticism, stonewalling and contempt. Let’s talk about what they look like versus what they’re healthy twin looks like. #relationships #marriageadvice #gottman #fourhorsemen #defensiveness #criticism #contempt #stonewalling #failure #nervoussystemregulation | Hope with Holly
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John and Julie Gottman’s famous “Four Horsemen” are four behavioral signs that increase the likelihood a couple will divorce. Appropriately, the presence of these four horsemen also help couples gallop into infidelity…. This is because these four relationship behaviors are interpersonally damaging. Their presence compromises intimacy and safety between partners. Thus, one or both partners may look outside the relationship for a safe place to feel seen, valued, admired, safe, appreciated or cared
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